1. Do you guarantee that I will get X number of dates?
No one, not even a highly qualified and experienced matchmaker, can guarantee a satisfying relationship for you. So be wary of such claims because they are most likely disguised escort services or scams! Some agencies guarantee you a certain number of introductions. However, there is no guarantee about the quality of those interactions.
Your dating potential, ability to attract and maintain a relationship is primarily controlled by, guess who? You! However, with dating advice from African American Matchmaking, we can help you maximize your dating potential and “dateability.”
But, let’s look at the big picture. Dates are a means to an end. As a goal itself, a date is short-term and with the wrong person, can be very uninspiring. The goal of African American Matchmaking is to find you a loving partner, which is long-term, giving you an infinite number of superior dates for the rest of your life.
2. Are you married? If so, how long have you been married?
Love and marriage are mutually exclusive, which means one can, and often does, exist without the other. Not everyone makes marriage an end goal and most people in the new millennium understand that years of marriage are not equated with happiness in either partner.
Personally, I have consistently maintained loving, long-term, committed relationships throughout my adult life with periods of single life in-between; I have been engaged 3 times and married once. I can identify with most African American Matchmaking members because I have experienced the highs and lows of relationships at various life stages: I have been both happy and unsatisfied as a single, engaged, married, and divorced woman. Currently, I am happy in love with a wonderful man and have been for a while! *
Most of us have a learning curve when it comes to relationships and no one is perfect. Everyone is different and a matchmaker’s responsibility is to find out what makes the client happy. The process is really about YOU, what you want and need.
3. What qualifies you and the other members of your team to take on matchmaking?
African American Matchmaking is new, but we are not new to the relationship business. Most of the matchmakers at African American Matchmaking have degrees in the social sciences and are highly experienced with consulting, counseling and assisting individuals and couples.
For example, I have a degree in Psychology and African American Studies from Princeton University and Certification in African Holistic Medicine & Science, plus my Masters in Business Administration (MBA).
With my extensive experience working with African American women and girls, I am an expert on current issues that impact them. What I hear most is a desire to be validated in a caring, loving relationship with a partner and the frustration that can result from failed attempts. I have also heard similar frustrations from African American men.
A matchmaker helps you find love by providing personal matchmaking services to find someone who is compatible. Matchmakers spend time and energy getting to know who you are and what you need. They also help you to make good choices. In addition, most matchmakers screen potential partners, provide dating and relationship advice to support your journey.
I love your questions! President Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama have given us a powerful vision of Black love unlike any other. We have to educate ourselves about matchmaking because matchmaking used to be reserved only for the very wealthy and elite.
We ALL deserve love in our lives. When you become a member of African American Matchmaking, we become your ally in love.
*I am writing a book about my various experiences with love, so keep posted!