Too often, a disagreement becomes an argument as communication breaks down among couples and each tries (in their own way) to get their points across to the other. The irony is that the message itself is usually one that the other needs to hear. Instead, in an argument, the message gets lost in its often dramatic, emotional translation, thus contributing to unsuccessful communication and resolution. It’s okay!
Most communication breakdowns among loving couples can be fixed. The key is recovery. A couple can recover from an argument by going back, correcting what went wrong, and using the argument as a learning experience that makes the relationship better for the future.
This means that each of you has to be willing to:
- Take responsibility and acknowledge what YOU could have done better in your communication.
- Let go of your negative response when you didn’t get what you want from your partner.
- Communicate better by trying again and asking for what you need.
- Kiss and makeup with a renewed understanding of your partner and what s/he needs.
- File it in your memory bank to avoid repeating this behavior, thereby making it a poor communication pattern in your relationship.
Keep moving forward, don’t go backwards. When you embrace this opportunity for positive change, truly move on, and recover from an argument, you be able to minimize future conflicts in communication with your partner.