Reposted from:  The Daily Love:

Most of us have been trained to believe that when a relationship ends, we lose the love of the person who we once felt so loved by. This belief is an instant misery-creating lie that is simply not true. The truth is, love is impossible to lose. Yes, you feel pain because of this breakup, but not because you’ve lost your former person’s love. You hurt because endings of any kind are sad. You hurt because you have lost the dream of what could have been. You hurt because the loss stirs up your own fears and past pains. You hurt because there is an empty space in your life that wasn’t there before, a space that you’ve been told is the loss of love, but it’s not.

Relationships are dynamic, they are always changing form, and sometimes in order to be happy, two people have to go their separate ways – which has nothing to do with love. Relationships end not because the love dies, but because the intimacy, trust, respect or connection fades, because the contract with each other completes, or because you each want and need different things from life. Not all relationships are meant to ‘be forever;’ if they were, you’d never meet anyone new.  Christine Arylo

The space you feel is an opening for more love to come into your life – starting with the love you have for yourself, and then expanding to include all the love that the world is just salivating to give you. Love is everywhere, when you are open to receiving it, and when you know where to look. Opening to love can be hard during a breakup, but I know no better medicine than love for mending a bruised or broken heart.

If you are interested in taking yourself off the pain train and moving into a space where you can honor your sadness and at the same time feel more love, happiness and possibility, then read on and put these three Love Generators to work for you:

1. Tell yourself the truth. You are not losing love. You are ending a relationship.

2. Mourn the loss of the dream, not of the person. And remember your dream didn’t die.

3. Find proof that love exists everywhere. Fill your life with love.


  1. Debra Scott

    November 26, 2014 at 6:50 pm

    I am very interested in joining your matchmaking site., but have a few reservations or questions. I would like to know how do you find the quality men to engage your matchmaking site. Why do they select your site with all the online sites available out there. What makes him want to join African American matchmaking?. With the site being in it’s infancy stages, how successful has it been thus far? I very interested in meeting a quality man to spend my time with, looking for a love companion that’s very secure with himself, caring, and loving. I am willing to release the rest of my wants and desires upon your response. Just want the guy that’s JUST RIGHT for me…..

    • Angela D. Coleman

      November 29, 2014 at 10:07 am

      Greetings, thank you for your thoughtful questions! I understand exactly what you mean. Online dating sites can be confusing and they all look the same (most of them are owned by the same company). African American Matchmaking is different.

      I recommend that you read Reasons to Join. I also created a blog post for you and others who are interested, 10 Ways African American Matchmaking is Unique.

      Being positive and optimistic is the first step to finding a loving partner. Know that there are quality men looking for a woman like you, too. Good luck and I hope that you try our site. I am here to help!


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