With African American Matchmaking, I often recommend going outside of your confined geographic area when searching for a match. There are several reasons why this makes sense:
- You are already familiar with what is available to you where you are.
- What you need in a partner is not easily found in your city or state.
- Expanding your range increases your statistical probability of success.
- You want something different.
- You or the potential match has flexibility regarding relocation.
Despite these many reasons to try long distance relationships, many singles are reluctant to think about long distance possibilities. Recently, after reading 5 Secrets of Long Distance Relationships, it became clear that it takes two unique perspectives to make a long distance relationship work if the relationship remains a long distance one for an extended period of time. However, it doesn’t have to if you don’t want it to.
These are the seven ways to make a long distance relationship work for you:
- Be open-minded and flexible about what you need and how you can benefit from the relationship.
- Release expectations that you may have from relationships with people who live close by.
- Develop appreciation for your partner by creating special moments, both planned and unplanned.
- Enjoy your freedom by living your lift to the fullest when you are apart.
- Encourage communication that is consistent and honest.
- Release your insecurities and give each other the space that physical distance requires.
- When the time is right and it is clear that your relationship is growing, discuss the possibilities of living in the same region, sharing the same space.