Excerpt from Black Girls Guide: How to Find & Choose the Right Man: Although enslaved Africans and African Americans formed unions and had marriages (“jumping the broom”), loving someone in the context of slavery was a risk. Your love for another could easily be exploited and used against you. Therefore, during the era of slavery, […]
Loving is what we are meant to do. However, it does not always last. Many times, it is not supposed to. Our hearts can break and ache after love is gone. Even at your most miserable point, know that it is temporary. You can and will love again. In the meantime, what do you do? […]
“The sad truth is I can go weeks at a time without coming across a nice photo of a woman of color in lingerie.” Cora Harrington, a.k.a. Treacle Tart, cross-posted from The Lingerie Addict. Most of us are stimulated when we see something that appeals to us. African Americans wear lingerie, too! Do you?
Common responses to trauma include increased anxiety, emotional detachment, and addictive behaviors such as alcohol, drugs, sex, overeating, gambling, shopping, etc. Things that remind a person of a traumatic event can trigger avoidance symptoms. These symptoms may cause a person to change his or her personal routine. Have any of these behaviors replaced love in […]
WE NEED MORE LOVE IN OUR COMMUNITIES. The Goal of African American Matchmaking: To Help You Find a Loving Relationship! African American Matchmaking is a company that promotes Black Love: Advice, Inspiration and Matchmaking Services
I don’t watch a lot of shows on television, preferring independent films and Netflix binges to cable. However, the reality show Dating Naked, caught my attention. Not just because it is yet another show featuring naked people, but because the concept of a potential couple meeting for the first time without clothing is intriguing to […]
In The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life, author Judith Orloff, M.D. devoted a chapter to letting go of any patterns that keep you from loving. In her own words: One of these patterns in being drawn to unavailable, commitment phobic people. It’s important to be very clear about […]
Good things come to those who risk, who step outside the norm and who allow themselves to be vulnerable. Do something different to get a different outcome. When nothing is ventured, nothing is gained. Try it today!
Studies show Black women are the least desired group on online dating sites. HOW CAN THAT BE? For those Black women who’ve tried their hand at finding love online, the results may not be all that surprising. But the racial breakdown of desirability is certainly intriguing. Buzzfeed produced a video to explain the findings of […]
In her new feature photo shoot for the beauty and fashion magazine Violet Grey, actress and director Angela Bassett goes bold in sexy black lingerie and talks about what it takes to be a woman of strength, but she also talks about her most vulnerable times: V.G.: WHO MAKES A GOOD DATE TO AN EVENT? […]
Hiding secrets from your spouse is never a good idea and the foundation of a healthy relationship is trust. The truth will almost always reveal itself eventually. But that doesn’t stop people from trying! *Whoa! According to one new study, 25-percent of married couples say that they hid (and are still hiding) something pretty major […]